Want to know how to increase self-esteem and look more attractive? Here are twenty tips to help you do this.
Wear Red For self-esteem
Psychological research has found that people unknowingly judge us as more confident when wearing red clothes. At the same time, we feel more confident when we wear red (because colors affect our emotions and mood). Therefore, if you are going to a date or an event where you need confidence – choose a red outfit.
Psychological research has also found that people rate us as more confident when wearing red lipstick. Speak with the shades of red lipstick that suits you, with your complexion and personality. It can be a bold move if you are not used to it. Be brave!
When our backs are rights, we give the impression of a confident person and feel more confident. High heels can help us “stand up” in a second and have better body language. On high heels, we feel “higher” in every sense.
Super Women Pose
Harvard School of Business professor Amy Cuddy conducted a rigorous study with her time on the correlation of body language and self-esteem and found that by changing our body postures, we could change our physiology. When we take a “Super Woman” pose or another “power pose” for two minutes, our blood levels of testosterone increase and we feel more confident in return! When you need extra confidence – you know what to do.
Start each morning for Thanksgiving and affirmations. Write your affirmations for the day and repeat them aloud at least three times. These can be affirmations of the type: “I build greater self-confidence every day”, “I am strong, courageous, and confident”, “I am beautiful and intelligent”. “I can achieve anything I want” … or some other – yours. These affirmations must resonate deeply with you!
Stand in front of a mirror every day and tell yourself that you love yourself, what makes you proud of yourself and why you are special. Do this for 40 days continuously to see results. (Warning: it works!).
Love your body
Until you love your body, you will not build long-term and lasting confidence. Hating your body is the fastest recipe for self-restraint.
Starving, tormenting your body with all sorts of clamps, bra braces, diets, “weird” preparations … will only “help” you feel miserable, no better! Even if all these “methods” give you short-term self-restraint, there will come a day when you will have to remove that bra or corset in front of that man or that beach. What then? You will remove not only the bra and the clamp but also the last bit of self-restraint you have left!
Accept and love your body as it is now, and at the same time, promise to take care of yourself better and work to be the most attractive version of yourself you can be. Be grateful for your body (what many women would give if they had legs to walk on – they wouldn’t care much for cellulite!).
Your body is your temple and your home in this life. Watch it and pamper it and love it.
Eat healthy – not to lose weight but because you love yourself and will not treat your body like a junk bin by stuffing junk food into it. Practice something you enjoy, whether it’s dancing, fitness, swimming or long walks. Not just to lose weight, but to have a healthy body and cultivate a healthy spirit in it.
Be realistic about what you can change in your body: some things have been given to us by genetics and are difficult (without cosmetic surgery) or impossible to change. Some things can be altered by our will and effort, such as hair color and length, bodyweight …
If you have a skin problem, do not hide it with makeup – treat it. Seek the advice of dermatologists and psychologists (often stress and anxiety are first “manifested” right on the skin). Wear clothes that make you feel good. Wear nice things every day, not just for a “special occasion” because every day is a precious and special occasion for us since we don’t know how many days we have left.
If you have a weight problem, consult a specialist. It is often the cause of emotional overeating. You will not solve this type of “fat” with starvation and diets until you heal the wounds you “feed” with food.
When it comes to exercise, the same applies. It’s a lot easier when you have a trainer and (or) a group of women to train with. Then you will do more regular exercises, have a lot more fun in the process and your motivation will last.
The more you take care of yourself, the better you will feel. It’s amazing how much inner happiness manifests in our bodies and our skin. You certainly know women who simply started to radiate “some” beauty and grace after falling in love, giving birth, or having a dream. You must also know women who were very beautiful but lost that beauty – due to long-term grief and stress, a toxic partner or burnout at work.
Make your self-care, self-love and your happiness a priority. You will see that your physical appearance will start to change naturally as a result of the change in you!
Self-care is the most important factor in the equation of self-love and self-esteem. Make every day the decision to do something beautiful for yourself. Spoil yourself with quality cosmetics and enjoy the process. Treat yourself to a massage or beauty treatment and the highest quality cosmetics you can. Devote enough time to yourself. Make a sparkling bath. Have a glass of wine or warm chocolate with a good book. Make yourself a healthy or green smoothie every day.
Only when you care enough about yourself and your body will you be able to truly love your body and feel good in your skin! This feeling will vibrate so strongly that you will look and act confident and attractive even without makeup – other people will feel it!
Love Yourself More!
If you constantly criticize yourself and dislike yourself, no matter what self-confidence exercises you practice, you will not have much success. Accept and love yourself with all your virtues and weaknesses. Only when you build a love for yourself will you also build true self-confidence that will not shake as easily.
Strengthen and straighten your back
Want to look and feel confident all the time, not just while wearing high heels? Strengthen your back! If you strengthen your back you will always walk and sit upright and feel and look confident.
Choose the kind of exercise or sport that fits you in and that will fit you into a schedule that includes back strengthening exercises such as yoga, Pilates, swimming … In addition to straight back, you will receive many other benefits for mental and physical health. Exercising regularly will give you a more flexible and lean body as a “side effect”, which will further boost your confidence!
Stop self-criticism and self-condemnation
Self-criticism and self-condemnation not only lower our vibration and ruin our mood, they literally “kill” our confidence. You will gain nothing by blaming yourself for past mistakes. Leave them in the past where they belong. Today you can decide that you will change, learn from those mistakes, become a new version of yourself and not repeat the same mistake in the future.
We should strive to be better, but not at the cost of torturing ourselves emotionally for every mistake and omission that we were not “perfect”. We need to look at where we can be better, what we can learn and fix with ourselves, what we need to work on, but at the same time forgive ourselves for not being “perfect” today.
Be more gentle to yourself!
We are often full of understanding when it comes to our dear friends, family members, partner … We can forgive them all or find justification for them. But we cannot for ourselves. We are often critics of ourselves, hate ourselves and find no justification.
We need to practice compassion for ourselves, forgive ourselves for our failures, and be gentler for ourselves, instead of repeating each day that we could have been faster, more, better … and punishing ourselves with guilt, self-sabotage, criticism, and condemnation.
Stop comparing yourself to other women – work on yourself!
Stop comparing yourself to models on magazine covers and actresses, who spent hours in the hands of makeup experts and hairdressers and whose photos were then photo-shopped by expert photographers. These comparisons are not realistic.
You will agree with me that every bride on her wedding day is beautiful, when she is worn by a professional makeup artist, has a phenomenal hairstyle and wears a dress in which she looks like a princess.
Stop comparing yourself to your colleagues or neighbors because they have their path, their circumstances, their support system, their genetics and their talents that you may not have, while you have yours that they do not have.
Stop comparing yourself … to other women and start working on yourself and becoming the best version of yourself instead. When you’re busy working on your grass, you won’t have the time or energy to notice whose grass is greener!
Work on your goals
When you set a goal for yourself and achieve it, it will give you faith in yourself and confidence that will last a long time. Whether it is a small goal or a big one, it is important that it is realistic, that you give yourself the time to reach it and be persistent on the way to the goal.
Be true to yourself and keep your promise to yourself that you will persevere, whatever that may be. When you learn to say “NO” to achieve what you want, you will build self-discipline and self-esteem. Without these two components, you will never build your worm confidence.
Stop being “Cheap” – Invest in Yourself!
Money is a symbol of value exchange. Where we invest money shows what we value in life. If you are “cheap” to yourself, you put yourself as a last resort, you only buy the cheapest things for yourself … You show how much you (not) value yourself.
Until you truly begin to value yourself, you will not build a strong self-confidence, and others will vibrate it and they will not value you. It will treat you the same way you treat yourself: it puts you last on the priority list, it will not invest in you and it will not value you. When you notice that you are not appreciated by other people, you will feel even less confident … and thus spin in the circle of low self-esteem.
You are the best and most valuable investment and deserve only the best you can afford. Only when you put yourself high on the pirouette rankings will you notice that you are put by others!
Change the story you tell yourself
You cannot increase your self-esteem by constantly self-degrading, negative, pessimistic stories about yourself. The constant repetition of being ashamed, of not having enough confidence … will only make you feel even less confident.
Start telling a different, more positive story, like working on your confidence and being bolder, more confident and confident in yourself every day. Affirmations and a positive, encouraging story about ourselves can be a powerful weapon for building confidence because our beliefs are just thoughts that we think for a long time. When we start telling a different story and think more positively about ourselves, we slowly but gradually change our limiting beliefs.
Comments on your account: “I’m crazy !,” I’m rolled up! “,” How stupid I am! “,” I’m fat as a cow! “,” I look like a frog toad! “,” I hate my face / hair / complexion / _______ “… not the desirable part of your confidence building!
Respect Yourself so Others Respect You
Only when you set healthy boundaries in relationships do you begin to prioritize yourself and your needs and build the discipline to say NO to people and things that are not good for you will you begin to truly respect yourself. When you truly respect yourself, you will radiate a strong confident self that nothing can shake!
Learn to accept rejection without self-condemnation
The worst we can do to ourselves after a rejection is to condemn ourselves and feel worthless and to look for flaws in ourselves and tell ourselves that we are not good enough.
Oprah Winfrey was fired from the first TV station she worked for. She was told she was too emotional and not good enough to read the news. Shakira was not admitted to the school choir. The singing teacher said she had no singing talent and was “gleaming like a goat.” To Arnold Schwarzenegger, the film agent was told that he had no chance of succeeding at Holywood because he had “a weird body, a weird accent, and the weirdest name.” The first book on Hary Potter was rejected 12 times by publishers and authored by J.K. Rolling has been told many times that he doesn’t quit his job and that he hopes to “make bread” for children’s books, because today children play games – the time for books and picture books is over.
You are GOOD enough and don’t give up until you come across this employer, client, or man who will recognize it and be happy to find you!
Learn something that will make you proud of yourself!
One of the best ways to increase your confidence, in the long run, is to learn something that will make you proud of yourself. Something difficult, complex, something that you’re not very “good at” or that scares you. The harder, more complex, “scarier” and “more demanding” you are – the better!
If you like languages, learn some new difficult language, such as Chinese, Hindi, Latin, Arabic, French … If you like yoga, start practicing power yoga asanas, such as the Urdu Dhanurasan pose. If you like dancing, learn some complex choreography or some complex dance like breakdance, advance hip hop, Argentine tango
Once you have mastered and learned something that you thought you never could or could not do, you will be so proud of yourself that your confidence and courage will automatically grow.
Work with a life coach
One of the things that “inhibit” us most in life is limiting beliefs. The problem with limiting beliefs is that they are so unconsciously entrenched that it is difficult to identify them and work on them – because we are not even aware that they exist and cannot “get out” of our heads. That is why I have my coach, even though I am a life coach myself.
Limiting beliefs that we are not good enough can be deeply rooted and this will be reflected by sabotaging ourselves in love (unknowingly attracting toxic relationships, busy partners, emotionally unavailable partners who are not ready to “bond”, unrequited love …). career or money (you work hard, you are hardworking, talented and intelligent, and yet it is difficult for you to earn “enough” money, find clients to work with or a well-paying job …).
Because we constantly sabotage ourselves because of limiting beliefs, every time we fail (whether on a love plan or in terms of work or money …), we feel even more worthless and our confidence and sense of personal worth fall further. Then we draw an even worse relationship from the past, another job loss or another month without income … and so on forever!
If you have recognized yourself in these words, look for a good life coach and start working on your limiting beliefs to get out of this unfortunate circuit.
Believe in yourself and work for yourself and your confidence and self-esteem every day. You are valuable. You can do it!